We have become a society that fears silence in conversation. The second the other person stops talking we feel the need to fill the void. I have to admit, I am guilty. Do we fear that if we stop and seriously consider what was said and what we should say the person will get up and leave on us?
The final thing I noticed about voidless conversations is that gossip was easily inserted. In all three there was a point at which what someone else said or did was brought up. And none were in flattering language. I wonder how the conversation would have been different if the “Quoted” person was present.
Has the ability to accept silence in a conversation been lost in our instant society? Or do we not even notice? Or are we so self-absorbed that we really don’t care? Try this in your next “coffee talk” with someone; wait 3 seconds after they finish talking before you say anything. See if it changes what you say.
I’m going to lunch with a guy, I’ll try it.